They were laughing at our vanity, how we got played, and the mercenary and cold nature of the women who approached us. Jakarta, like so many other global metropolises, is a place where people come to chase their dreams. The global financial crisis drove us both back to our home countries. We went back to either small towns or small corners of big cities. In vain, we tried to hit the local bars, replicating in our mind what were the successes of the previous decade. The Tao of Steve suggested there was a technique to the whole thing. We delved into the Internet and discovered an entire corpus of teachings on how to get babes, starting with You Tube with titles like “How to land the woman of your dreams.” Certain themes emerge from these Douchebag coaches.
Many of the girls we thought adored us were simply looking to trade up what they thought was a piece of the American or Australian dream after years of conditioning by movies and TV. Most of it you could’ve got from your Uncle (if you were lucky enough to have a functional one): be confident. Be chivalrous, even if feminist websites like tell you it’s dead and chauvinist.
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And because most dating sites ask users to give consent for their data to be used for research purposes, this online courting has played out like an enormous social science experiment, recording people's moment-by-moment interactions and judgments.
A team led by Elizabeth Bruch, a sociologist at the University of Michigan, Ann Arbor, tapped into this torrent of dating data.
She then tried to call him and get him to come back and have sex with her, but he just went and pulled another girl for a one night stand instead.
He, like me, doesn’t put up with that sort of crap from women.